Monday, February 28, 2011

Afraid of Change

Why are we, as humans, afraid of change?  Safety and stability go hand in hand, it seems.  It is so difficult for us to embrace change, and for some reason it is especially hard to embrace that change when it is good for us!

Look for instance at a good friend, or even an acquaintance for that matter, who is in a bad relationship.  You know they are unhappy, they look unhappy, they act it.  Goddess knows, some part of them knows it as well.  But when they are finally out of the relationship, are they happy?  No.  They don't see the end of their relationship as the beginning of the re-growth of their self esteem and independence.

We all have those things, something different for each on of us.  We have to be pushed and pushed and pushed before we do it, only to find out we love it!  I personally will admit to be a huge stick in the mud.  I like things to stay the same.  Really, I hardly even read new books.  I have about 70 books that I love, and I read them over and over.  Same with TV shows.  When Sean and I first started dating, he tried to get me to watch Smallville.  I declined immediately, of course.  It was about a superhero!  I don't watch those kinds of shows.  Or at least, not until we were super bored one day about a year later and he tried yet again, for the millionth time, to get me to watch it.  "Fine," I replied, sighing just a little.  I figured I would watch the first episode, tell him I didn't like it, and that would be the end of that.  Little did I know that I would be instantly hooked, even with how crappy the first season is.  We watched 6 episodes that day...ah, the days before babies.

So, what does all this have to do with anything now?  Nothing really, other than giving you examples of how I react to change.  So imagine my reaction when it finally became clear to me that I'm being called by a different set of Gods.  When I first found Wicca, I followed Celtic Gods.  Shortly after, though, I changed.  For so many years now, I've followed the Egyptian Gods.  Lately, however, I've been called by the Norse Gods.  This is, of course, somewhat uncomfortable for me at the moment.  Being that I too am human, I naturally have some amount of hesitation when it comes to change.  Being that Wicca is nothing if not a path of evolution and change, I will get used to this new idea eventually.

How long does it take you to get used to such radical change?  How often have you been called by a God or Goddess you didn't expect?

Goddess Bless,



  1. "Change is inevitable. Except from vending machines."

    You are right: people will often resist change up until they have no other choice. Then resist it a little longer.



  2. I think change can be good or bad depending on your personal readiness for it. Forced change can be damaging and harmful to the psyche depending on the situation.
    Stability can be a good thing for someone who has never had that before because it presents a different view for that individual and a certain amount of relaxation that is essential to health and well being. In my experience I am more ready for change when I have a stability in my life. It is also easier to hear and listen when I do not have other stuff on my mind so I may receive a clear message.
    There is nothing wrong with being adventurous and trying something new either way you'll find out if you like it or not and in the end finding out a truth is a positive thing because it leads us to our own:)

  3. Thanks Rainy! And also, thanks other commenter with no name! ♥ I agree with you completely. No matter if we like it or not it does end up leading us to our own truths. :) Don't be strangers!

  4. I'm an oddball, I thrive on change and get restless when things are too... static. We used to move cross-country at least once a year, so that may have something to do with it... to me, change IS familiar. The knowledge that nothing is permanent, and that if you don't like something you can change it, has always been a comfort to me. Now I am having to adjust to being in one place, under one set of circumstances. Admittedly, I am not taking to it as gracefully as I could.

  5. I don't think you're an oddball, LittleWitch! If change is what you've known, then the fact that you aren't changing in the same way is a change. It's a change for you, at least. Strangely convoluted sentence, wot?